Forgive & Let Go
“I skated, fell down and learned to pick myself up in front of millions.”
- Michelle Kwan -
You are on this earth to live, to experiment, to make mistakes & learn… sometimes while you are experimenting & going through life you will hurt yourself, and sometimes others…
When you do something and it turns out to be a mistake, you hurt yourself first. HOW?? By the thoughts that you are having & experiencing… and the more you resist to accept what happened the more you hurt & feel hurt… So you do your best to convince yourself that it’s not a mistake or give yourself other scenarios that can not be done anyway because what happened has already happened, so you hurt even more…
And sometimes it’s more complicated than this, because you might have hurt other people along the way, people that love you or look up to you, or people that are in the situation with you… what can you do then?
It is a must to admit that you did something wrong, it’s Okay that you did a mistake, sometimes you do not even notice what is the situation, while other times you think that you are in control of the situation but the truth is that nothing in life is guaranteed, you might have it under control from your side but you can never control what people see, feel or how they hear things, each one of us is always experiencing life from their own projections & life’s experience
“You need to give yourself permission to be human.”
- Joyce Brothers -
Well, you need to understand that you only have the power to make yourself feel what you feel, you can never make anyone feel anything they do not want to feel or think that they feel… and again although that is said, you need to be compassionate and understand that YES! Your actions can influence or effect people, and YES! sometimes your actions hurt you & others… But REALLY!! What do we need to do here? In all cases the process is the same… you need to be accountable for whatever has happened, stop replaying the situation in your head, accept that it has happened, understand what triggered this situation to happen or the behaviour that created the situation, and once we understand the event forgive yourself and then Release & Let GO…
“We do not learn from experience... we learn from reflecting on experience.”
- John Dewey -
Here are some ways to help forgive yourself:
Accept yourself & Accept what happened
Remember that You are not your Behaviour… Making a mistake or a bad behaviour does not make you a bad person
Talk to someone… talking to someone can help you see things from another perspective, or can give you support and sometimes will serve as therapy, as you hear the situation out loud you might see the event differently
Talk to yourself, calm yourself, tell yourself IT IS OKAY… remember you live with other entities within your body, you need to acknowledge them & let them know that you see them, feel them & hear them
Imagine your best friend is in this situation… what would you tell Your best friend?
Understand that healing needs time, take your time to understand your emotions and remember that emotions serve a purpose… and do the same for others
Apologise to people you’ve hurt
Learn from your mistake & find the silver-lining… in any unwanted event or unpleasant situation there is something good that comes out of it. You will grow, mature, and become more understanding of life, love, and the people around you.
Concentrate on your priority & what you want
Relax, breathe & let go
At the end of the day the important thing to remember while we are living, really living, is that in order for us to learn we have to make mistakes… with mistakes the learning sticks, although it might hurts or pains or stings, you will get your revelation & your AHA!! moment. And when that happens, remember that It is far harder to hold on to the anger, pain or resentment, than it is to just let go, to love, and to forgive. No matter what happened, it’s going to be okay. Remember that every situation we are put in is because we need to learn from it something or face something… so always be open to the goodness of every bad situation (or experience).
“We need to realize that our path to transformation is through our mistakes. We're meant to make mistakes, recognize them, and move on to become unlimited.”
- Yehuda Berg -
Sources:
Letting Go by David R. Hawkins
Emotional Intelligence by Mark Madison
Real Love by Sharon Salzberg
