What is LOVE?
Love! What is Love? A question I keep getting asked about… other questions can reoccur… How can you love another and have self-love? How can you love someone unconditionally and have standards?!… etc. Questions, questions, questions about Love and what it is… but really! What is the meaning of LOVE?
You all get the meanings of emotions, words, and thoughts first from your parents, then your family & relatives, then the environment you live in. And only when you get enough of what you know; then you start to doubt and look further more and dig deeper for answers….
To me, when I was a child Love was simple, it started with my mom, I remember following her around everywhere she went and copying her, and then with my dad; in which love meant that I wouldn’t sleep unless I am in his arms then as I grew older love was playing and giggling with him, and when it comes to my brother; love meant that we get to discover things together and keep secrets from our parents… and so on… love meant a lot of things like; stay with the people you love, tell them your secrets, encourage them to do more of what they love, be kind to them, always say the truth, keep their secrets, get sad from them when they mistreat you, and the misconception of “if they love you, they will know what wrong did they do”… little did I know that LOVE is much deeper than this, that LOVE is more pure and it starts from within.
”Love is the absence of JUDGEMENT”
- Dalia Lama -
Love is one of the highest energy fields there is, and unconditional love is even higher. When people say Love has the power to move mountains, it does… see when you love yourself unconditionally, it means that you love yourself without any judgment, that you will love yourself with kindness, that you will want to be the best for yourself, and that you respect your energy, time and your own intelligence… now you might ask me, what is so special about SELF-LOVE? Well, Love is an energy field, if you are talking about discrete particles and their degrees of freedom, the total energy of a system, or potential energy in a field (which in Love’s case we know to be infinite), or even in terms of the more mystical and transpersonal characteristics of Love as described in the quantum field, that means that when you experience SELF-LOVE, you are already in an abundant (unlimited force of love and flow, with no restraints or obstacles) state of being, and great things get to happen, you are in-check with your thoughts, you know what you want, you behave compassionately with yourself and others, your nature is beauty and kindness and therefore you will mirror what you have inside into the world and you’ll be able to attract what you and your heart desire, and be able to overcome obstacles with more ease and intelligence.
The process that you go through when you discover self-love is something along the below steps:
The things (stories) you tell yourself about You
The things (stories) that others tell you about You
Making a meaning of the above and creating thoughts and emotions about them (decisions)
Meeting the little critic inside of you
Coming to terms with leaving “perfect” behind and letting go of it and the anxiety it brings
Becoming whole (mind, body & soul)
Choosing to be happy & let go of all limiting beliefs about you and life
Knowing your values, guarding them and following them
See, it all starts with Love, and love starts by Loving yourself, and then everything falls in place…
Falls in place, I didn’t say that everything will be Perfect… I believe that perfect is not a stand alone word. So it can be used as “perfectly fine”, “perfectly normal”, “perfectly understood” or even “perfectly beautiful” but should not be used as an adjective, such as a “perfect person”, “perfect partner”, “perfect relationship” or “I want to be perfect”… and the beauty of humanity is that we get to embrace it and not worry about being perfect or always this or that… and when it comes to loving other people we need to learn to love them as they are… not change them and not expect things from them…
In my next articles I will talk about Love for others and how not to expect… for now, let’s enjoy this loving month by knowing about Love from a deeper perspective every week a little more.
Continue having a lot more of loving moments
