I Love You vs. I’m in love with You
Why do people omit to tell each other “I love you”?
I have been telling my friends lately that I love them, whether while texting especially if they are having an uneasy day, or when we are together, sometimes I say it when we are sitting talking, and sometimes before I leave…
I have learned so much from doing so… so far I have learned that saying I Love You to my friends, a genuine I Love You makes me happy and increase the oxytocin & dopamine levels in my brain… draws a smile on their faces and when that happens my reward hormone goes yup (ding ding ding) and at the same time increases trust (communication & love hormone increases) between us, so even our friendship becomes smoother, more open and has so much love.
I have also learned the difference between loving someone and being in love… most of the time because we feel that “I Love You” is only said to your special someone, when we meet someone & we connect with them on some level just because we are excited about them or crushing on them, we think that we are in love with them… and most of the time it’s not the case… we are in love with the state and not the person, that doesn’t mean that we don’t love that human, we do… but for a person to be in love it always takes 2. It takes effort from both, understanding, allowing each other to heal, grow & trust and also share… share when both are ready, because it is important for us to remind ourselves that we are all different, and we never know the reality of someone’s mental health or the thoughts they are experiencing… being in love is an ongoing process, it’s also a decision you make that you will stay in love, and you will keep doing what got you and the other person to falling & being in love with each other, and always remember never to assume things.
Now, back again to the point to when I was saying “I love you” to your friends is important… the more you say “I love you” to your friends, the more you will get to know yourself, you get to identify what is important to you in friendships, what characteristics you want in a friend, and what characteristics you would like to have in the person you fall in Love with, stay young with, grow together with & find serenity in each other.
The feeling of giving love is rewarding… especially when you are giving without any expectation… when you tell your friend you love him or her, you are really saying it because you truly feel it & not expecting to hear it back, and the second you say it, you feel loved, because when you give Love… you will receive love somehow… the energy around you & the universe will always give back… and that feeling is just WOW (indescribable) and sometimes your friend says it back to you, and sometimes another person will express how much you mean to them… (it’s the universe working it’s magic for you)
I really think that people should normalize saying “I love you” to each other… and also normalize to fall out of love with your significant other, because even when you fall out of love with them you will continue loving them… you will never stop loving them… that part in you that loved this person will always be there… even if you think that you stopped loving them, there will be a day when you realize that you still love them… and the same applies to a friend you aren’t friends with anymore… there will come a day and you decide to remember the good memories and fun you had together & the love you had for each other. And also normalize always making an effort to stay in love & nourish & grow that love especially when you are married or in any committed relationship. Effort is sexy, it’s hot, it’s exciting, it’s seductive & intriguing… and both have to keep doing it and by time this effort will become effortless & natural, habitual….
To me… I am in love with Life, and I am loving my friends & family and everything around me even more everyday day, and I am looking forward to be in love. At the moment I love myself and will continue being in love with love and life…
Continue having a loving & blessed day!
